This presupposition of NLP is a tool to boost the confidence and motivation when you need those, so you can recall this presupposition whenever you want to do something that you think is difficult for you. You will find an instant change in your confidence and you will achieve your goal passionately. Let’s go through the brief of it.
First, I want to talk about the belief that limits us, holds us back to do something, to try something that we were always scared of. It could also be a habit that you want to get rid of so badly but could not make yourself able enough to even try to get rid of it. Let’s take an example of belief first, suppose you are someone who does a desk job and never given any speech or presented in front of people and you also don’t want to do that and you think that you can’t do it, that’s because of your belief. All you need to do is change your belief system. Here, you can remind yourself this presupposition that if someone can do it – anyone can do it, you just needs to take action.
Let me share another example, If you have a bad habit of smoking, drinking alcohol, biting your nails or picking hair etc and you know it is definitely not a good thing to be habitual of, I am sure that you know someone with the same habit and left it long ago, you can use this presupposition again to get motivated that if someone can do it you can also do it, right? Once you start believing in this presupposition you will find that this is the best helping tool that you can use for anything that you wish to achieve.
There is no failure, only feedback
After reading the title you might be thinking “definitely there is failure”. Well yes, according to NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) it exists only if you choose to look at it that way. This is a constructive feeling which is made by our own mind. You can choose to look at the results either as a feedback or a failure.
When you decide to try out something new or take new actions and you don’t get the expected results, you may choose to be negative or consider learning out of the experience. If you choose to think that you failed, ask yourself for a moment what feeling would you get next time before trying out something new? It is better to think of a new action and take result as an experience or a feedback.
Lets understand this in an another way. I want you to pick an activity what you are used to do now; it could be driving, typing on laptop or mobile and cooking etc. Now, I would like you to recall the memory when you tried it for the first time and the mistakes that you made in the beginning. Why are you good in it now? Because you chose to learn it anyway and you took the results as feedback and you improved yourself by learning from your mistakes.
If may have a team and your team member is not performing well and if you consider their performance to be a failure may lead to hindrance in improvement. Hence this presupposition of NLP recommends believing in feedback and not failure.
So, failure is nothing but a constructed feeling which holds you back from improving and limits you. The only way to know your limits is to try them. Start taking your results as a feedback and success will be the only outcome you will get.